My teenager is dumber than yours

[hivoltagesledhead]

Been there...done that...have 2 girls 11 and 13...had all the talks a father can have with girls...only hope is when they want to try it they will come to me...roll something fat and nasty that will make them sick for a week ans we will see what happens after that !!!! Pretty sure they wont come to me first,but thats my plan.............

 

[Prank Monkey]

Interesting theory...

After talking to my wife, I think she is on to something.

He was trying to bluff me by asking to go to the police because he didnt want to be punished and didnt think I would take him.

I called his bluff by taking him there. By then he felt it was too late to back out so kept up with his story.

Things that make you go hmmm....

EDIT: DenverR1 you were on to something...was typing while you posted. I cant believe I didnt see that. I am getting old.

 

[xrated]

wow that kid is dumber then chit! funny story.

I agree with ya, if the kid is gonna try and sell his story that hard, then take him to the bank on it.

It's the same thing as repeatedly telling a kid that their feet will get cold if they walk in the snow barefoot....after so many, "no they won't"s you just gotta throw that 3 year old out into the snow bank bare footed! Now she knows.

 

[sleddin pete]

Kids will be kids.
None of us were perfect as teens.I mad some questionable choices when I was young.Hope he learns his lesson and gets back on the right path.
Pete

 

[suitcase]

Not to sure what to think about your young man's party. I am a father, mine is 10, so it is comeing for me soon. I think calling his bluff was right on, IMO in this day and age young people don't think we (parents) will not go that way. There is to much t.v. about how we need to realize that are kids are not taken care of, (not enough time with them) because we are working hard to provide for them, and give them more than what we had as young people. IMO most parents want to make a better life for there kids, than they had. And at the age that kids start with those things, they are old enough to think and become there own person. So what ever you did as a parent was better than nothing at all.

 

[cmantle1]

hahahaha, id only get worried if he starts throwing the needles in the corner of the garage....

 

[IowaSnowCat]

If he took the chance of smoking it in YOUR HOMES garage, he must be desperate for that buzz (walmart receipt too). He probably does have an addiction or problem to take it to those extreme measures. I'm not a dr or counselor or anything like that, just my opinion. I think you did the right thing and I would of done exactly what you did. Too many parents these days are "friends" with their kids and not "parents". Maybe I'm old fashioned, but nowadays kids are walking all over their parents and getting away with so much. Don't get me wrong, I am very close with my kids, but they RESPECT me and your son will too. You showed him the difference between PRIVALEDGES and CONSEQUENCES (Right from Wrong) and that is EXACTLY what parents are supposed to do in my opinion.

Going from here, you have ALOT of work to do. Keep an eye out for the friends he associates with - they didn't get caught, so you know they are not threatened. And who in the hell sells marijuana to 14 yr olds??? That's what I would be on the hunt for.

Good luck on this situation - we need more parents like you in this world. Pat yourself on the back, I guarentee down the road he will respect you and you two will have TRUST.

 

[firecatguy]

spend more time with your son!!he is asking for help and sounds like you caught this in time!!take him snowmobiling spend the weekends with him...stop this destructive behavior before it becomes a way of life for him....

 

[Himark]

WOW...Holy cow. I LOL as I read your story to my wife. Thank you for posting it!!

As for taking him to the police I wont argue with you. He pushed and you pushed back. At least you can control this police situation rather than it being out of your control and he was out on his own. I think its a good thing to have him understand what can happen. This could go both ways but I am sure you raised him to make a better choice since you took the time to deal with this. There are alot of parents that just let them run wild and those are the ones that are truely in trouble. kudo's to you.

 

[PGTDragon]

Please people I seriously doubt the kid running down the highway to hell just for smoking a little dope, I personally do not know anyone who has not at some point in their lives, smoked a little pot. It is part of growing up and rebelling against the man, the parent, the world, and after all we all knew so much more than our sorry parents at that age. Everyone I know partied to the limit and I know I did a lot more than smoke a little weed, but my parents also raised me right, just as I am sure this kid has been, and we grew up and out of doing all of that silly sh*t and got on with life. Also if you think your kids are not doing something wrong once in a while you are not paying attention, think about all the stuff you did as a teen and todays youth have access to even more, he screwed up and got busted and continued to push himself into a corner, like every dumb kid sometimes does, lesson learned. I doubt anyone will be visiting him on death row anytime for just being a kid. My kid straight snitches on himself, he knows I have done way worse than he will ever do and I will catch him if he is too far out of line, once in a while he gets a boot in the tail, but for the most part he is reasonable in his decission making process, at least for a kid.

 

[Headrush]

You should have tested it yourself...

 

[DenverR1]

Please people I seriously doubt the kid running down the highway to hell just for smoking a little dope, I personally do not know anyone who has not at some point in their lives, smoked a little pot. It is part of growing up and rebelling against the man, the parent, the world, and after all we all knew so much more than our sorry parents at that age. Everyone I know partied to the limit and I know I did a lot more than smoke a little weed, but my parents also raised me right, just as I am sure this kid has been, and we grew up and out of doing all of that silly sh*t and got on with life. Also if you think your kids are not doing something wrong once in a while you are not paying attention, think about all the stuff you did as a teen and todays youth have access to even more, he screwed up and got busted and continued to push himself into a corner, like every dumb kid sometimes does, lesson learned. I doubt anyone will be visiting him on death row anytime for just being a kid. My kid straight snitches on himself, he knows I have done way worse than he will ever do and I will catch him if he is too far out of line, once in a while he gets a boot in the tail, but for the most part he is reasonable in his decission making process, at least for a kid.

X2. Some are making this a much bigger deal than it is!

 

[cmantle1]

If he took the chance of smoking it in YOUR HOMES garage, he must be desperate for that buzz (walmart receipt too). He probably does have an addiction or problem to take it to those extreme measures. .

i really hope this is a joke. have you ever smoked pot? addiction becuse he does it in his dads garage? some people make me laugh...

 

[KFD070]

X2. Some are making this a much bigger deal than it is!

Excatly.

 

[Osborne Performance]

lived it had my stepson do it. sent him to the cops too now he has straight A from a d average. he is a great kid now with a idea of college not just loffing around yes he has a record it gone at 18. i sold his sled too .this isnt funny just a little weed it is a drug i am a little harsh but i am glad we live in oregon if we would have been pulled over in wa and they would of found it because we had know idea but i would have lost my cdl and my job. and i suport you 100 %

 

[SRCC]

Regarding your title, as you have heard from eariler post, most of our kids have been caught doing the same thing, including mine. After going thru it with my own, I can tell you what I did, that worked for us. Check to see if you have a Juvenile Diversion Program available. It will do a couple of things. They may have some education classes he will be required to take, (a few hours on a weekend) some community service, AA type meetings, maybe a couple of drug tests. All programs have different requirements and most medicial insurance company will pay for it. After succesful completion there is not a drug charge on there record. The other thing that I think, did the most good in our situation,was to require him to be with a adult at all times possiable. He was also my riding buddy that went with me on most of my rides. I made him explain to all of our other riding buddys (adult friends that he respected) what he had done, as well as his aunts, uncles,and grandparents. That was probably the toughest on him, explaing to grandma what he had done, as they are very close. Everone told him how stupid it was and how disappointed they were, but were very supportive understanding the need for expermenting. It was real interesting how friends and family members comments had more of a impact than his mother or mine. I thing catching him and calling the cops for a first time would be exterme, but where he forced your hand, I commend you for following thru. By the way, this is the perfect place to post this. It takes the entire snowest village to raise a child

 

[TNTCOPP]

Please people I seriously doubt the kid running down the highway to hell just for smoking a little dope, I personally do not know anyone who has not at some point in their lives, smoked a little pot. It is part of growing up and rebelling against the man, the parent, the world, and after all we all knew so much more than our sorry parents at that age. Everyone I know partied to the limit and I know I did a lot more than smoke a little weed, but my parents also raised me right, just as I am sure this kid has been, and we grew up and out of doing all of that silly sh*t and got on with life. Also if you think your kids are not doing something wrong once in a while you are not paying attention, think about all the stuff you did as a teen and todays youth have access to even more, he screwed up and got busted and continued to push himself into a corner, like every dumb kid sometimes does, lesson learned. I doubt anyone will be visiting him on death row anytime for just being a kid. My kid straight snitches on himself, he knows I have done way worse than he will ever do and I will catch him if he is too far out of line, once in a while he gets a boot in the tail, but for the most part he is reasonable in his decission making process, at least for a kid.

I agree , however, I think what the kid will hopefully learn out of this ( and the bigger issue ) is to "man-up" and tell the truth - SOONER! A little white lie is one thing - but for him to let this spiral out of control as far as it did is idiotic. People just can't admit when they're in the wrong.

 

[jcrjet]

Wow, that's tough love. You always see it advertised but rarely practiced. You did the right thing. Good luck, and I hope he is able to turn this around.

 

[Oregongirl]

Great story!! It takes a village....and sometimes that village IS the local cop shop. At 14 a little reality check about choices and consequences in terms of community service time or peer court is fantastic!! Better 14 and community service, than 35 with a family and jail time.

 

[moyiesledhead]

Wow! I just hugged my daughter, and I'm gonna have to visit my son and hug him too! I've heard these horror stories before and I've come to realize how lucky I am.

22 year old son, already a journeyman HD mechanic, just bought a house...and a second sled (can't ride the turbo sled every day!) He was no angel, but phoned ME for a ride the first time he overindulged on beer at 16.

19 year old daughter, second year of a teaching degree and working hard to pay for it herself! Has already told me a few things I didn't know about her younger teen years, but nothing this bad.

Man am I lucky!