The Best Way to get over her???

[Gilly]

dude.you have more drama than an oprah show!
call here up,get your balls back and never talk to her again...end of story.

 

[Wyoming T/A]

just buy a new car

 

[cubby]

First off T/A that's a nice car. Second quit bringing it up on here that's how to get over her!

 

[Transporter]

Here is a pic of snowmobiles kids ex's latest tattoo.

 

[Rowboat]

Here is a pic of snowmobiles kids ex's latest tattoo.

Hahaha yes!

 

[priest lake rmk]

I wonder how many guys have ridden those bars. I'm betting quite a few.

 

[Transporter]

Two stroke or four??

 

[ragincajun]

im guessing one of them "green machines". while you ride you get wifs of the ocean..ya know the smell of fish and rotten clams? and them arnt warts....they are just barnicles

 

[hatchers]

Trust me if you saw her friends you wouldnt touch them with a 10Ft pole.

YOu know how nasty girls always have one hot friend........ya same here

im not following what you're saying young fella......hit it and bounce, you're young, stop looking for love, just find a fresh (to you) piece of meat to poke at until it gets old, then find another piece of trim, repet this process until till you die or get married and live in the shop like i do......

 

[ak ryda]

Ya ive been doing alot better....hopefull il go back to work next week and that will help tons.

I did pretty good about leaving her alone, but took some of your advice about when she called and wanted to talk and I was there to listen....

We went to dinner tuesday night, it went alright.....she called about 20 min after I left and said she didnt know why she was calling, just missed me.

The next night we went up in the hills and wheeled around in the snow, parked and she had alot to say about everything.....how sorry she was, how depressed she is, how shes only happy with me, how the whole time she was being a huge b!tch, how she wants to be with me for the rest of her life and wants to start going on dates to make sure we can get along and rebuild our relationship. took her home, that night she called me to say how much she loves me and goodnight and asked if i would go with her to a friends cabin for the weekend with her.

the next few days she was real nice to me, lots of cute texts and what not.

Friday came and we headed up in the hills (about an hr and a half drive to the cabin). Got to the cabin, had a great night, boinked her a few times, she cried alot telling me how happy she was and was so excited to work this out.

Saturday night we go to the bar to have a drink......a girl sent me a text "hey what are you up to".........SHE FREAKED OUT, asked me to take her home, said I had to leave, I called her a really bad name and now were back to square 1.

The good part is im doing just fine without her, cus everytime she does this to me she does me a favor by ruining the last few feelings I have for her.

ONce a cheater always a cheater and one a liar always a liar

YOU ARE DOING IT WRONG!

No offense bro, but by my method of deduction I see you spent Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday with her. That is falling into old habits and given unstable chick logic I can see her going crazy on Saturday night. If you are going to be broken up with her then do it, if you are going to string the both of you along then quit postponing the inevitable and just take her back and wait for it to happen again.

Being friends with her only works if you give enough time for the both of you to fully move on from the situation. Otherwise there are too many mixed messages that will only end in more drama.

 

[ripperd]

Time cures all bro, just refocus on yourself. Being self destructive is fine for a temporary coping mechanism but dont let them control you (been there, done / doing that after end of 11+ year marriage a little over 6 months ago). There are alot more girls out there, you will get with another one and be happier, happens every time.

AND FOR THE LOVE OF GOD QUIT SEEING HER AND BEING HER FRIEND. As much as it hurts and as much as you still want her, she is the one who dumped YOU. Dont disrespect yourself by enabling her. You are young and got your $hit together, if its meant to be then she will come CRAWLING back. If not, then you are better off.

And while we are here, dont do anything really stupid since you are low and more susceptible to poor decision making. Really stupid errors include but are not limited to..... DUI, knocking up random girl, or fall for first rebound girl you get with. Seen them all done by dudes in your exact position.

+1000 to what ak ryda said.

Sorry I don't do one night stands, I have self-respect for myself. But if it your gig, more power to ya!

Older and wiser eh? Nothin wrong with them as long as both are going into it with the same plan.

 

[T-Bone]

Ya ive been doing alot better....hopefull il go back to work next week and that will help tons.

I did pretty good about leaving her alone, but took some of your advice about when she called and wanted to talk and I was there to listen....

We went to dinner tuesday night, it went alright.....she called about 20 min after I left and said she didnt know why she was calling, just missed me.

The next night we went up in the hills and wheeled around in the snow, parked and she had alot to say about everything.....how sorry she was, how depressed she is, how shes only happy with me, how the whole time she was being a huge b!tch, how she wants to be with me for the rest of her life and wants to start going on dates to make sure we can get along and rebuild our relationship. took her home, that night she called me to say how much she loves me and goodnight and asked if i would go with her to a friends cabin for the weekend with her.

the next few days she was real nice to me, lots of cute texts and what not.

Friday came and we headed up in the hills (about an hr and a half drive to the cabin). Got to the cabin, had a great night, boinked her a few times, she cried alot telling me how happy she was and was so excited to work this out.

Saturday night we go to the bar to have a drink......a girl sent me a text "hey what are you up to".........SHE FREAKED OUT, asked me to take her home, said I had to leave, I called her a really bad name and now were back to square 1.

The good part is im doing just fine without her, cus everytime she does this to me she does me a favor by ruining the last few feelings I have for her.

ONce a cheater always a cheater and one a liar always a liar

So basically she couldn't find a guy with as much money, huh?

 

[Sled Idaho]

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ONce a cheater always a cheater and one a liar always a liar

I'm 44. I am five months divorced after being married 19 years, and being together with her for 2.5 yrs prior to that. That's half my life. We had no outside issues that broke up our marriage, it was just us realizing we weren't happy...period. Our split was as amicable as they get, seriously. I have had a tougher time moving on than she has, likely because she started another relationship with an equally co-dependent person before our divorce was final. She has had someone to lean on a lot where I did not. Anyway, what I am saying is I sort of understand what you're going through.

I've somewhat kept up on this thread, but I don't remember reading that she cheated on you until this post...maybe I just missed it before? Dude, right there, get rid of that skank. She might be fun, sweet, hot, a good lay, nice, etc., but you said it yourself - once a cheater always a cheater. That is all the reason you should need to leave, block her phone number on your phone, and never talk to her again. Regardless of the reason, there is never a good reason to cheat. That is for weak-minded people with no scruples or morals. Look ahead 10-20 yrs and say to yourself "is this the example I would want for my children?" You know the answer.

Anything otherwise and you are enabling her - telling her it is okay to cheat on you, aka treat you like a punching bag. This is about self-respect, i.e., you need to freaking have some. Leave and don't look back.

Others have said already - you're young and obviously have a lot going for you. No reason to let someone walk on you because they're hot. Seriously think about leaving the area if all else fails. Small towns are shat when it comes to this type of thing.

Good luck to you young man, I hope you are able to pull things together soon.

 

[MARV1]

Oh the drama she puts out and you are dumb enough to listen to it. Heck, at least you got laid a few more times. Now just put the phrase to her picture, "no matter how hot she is, someone, somewhere is tired of her chit!" Live and learn, wouldn't work out anyways.

 

[Snowmobile Kid]

Im not upgraded so I cant see all your posts but heres what I can say....

Ive slowed way down on the drinking, finding that i can do just fine if I stay busy, cant say that I dont think about us but thats normal I suppose. I Havent talked to her in over a month until the other day, I got a phone call that she was in the ER........she hit rock bottom, her family has abandend her due to her poor decsion making, drugs are ruining her life to the point where she is in and out of the hospital, she lost her job due to drugs, she lives wherever she can find a place to sleep........said she wants it all back now and im proud to say thats just too damn bad.

 

[RMK7SledHead]

Dodged a bullet there buddy.