just like everyone. Pray often about your thoughts and God be with all of you. He is the rock to lean on. Best wishes and prayers.
Prayers needed for my son......
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Prayers go out to you and your family. Like it was stated before, if your son needs help, get it. I lost one of my best friends last year to suicide, never saw it coming. Hadn't even been out of high school over a year and he took his life. It is the hardest thing that I have ever dealt with, and I couldn't even imagine if my dad did it. Again, Prayers to your family, and I hope that you find comfort in some way.
Thanks for sharing your story. A lot of people speak of the person who committed suicide as selfish, etc. I've been in places so low in my life, but never thought of suicide. And to think that those people have been so low that it felt it was their only option- you won't hear me speaking down on them. I can't fathom what they are going through.
As for your son, I don't know if you are religious or not, but if it were me I would get him some counseling through the church I go to. That being said, and I hate to admit it, but there are some churches out there that would not handle this situation right. Either way, get your son to talk to someone because even if he seems ok on the outside you just don't know sometimes. You will be in my prayers.
As for your son, I don't know if you are religious or not, but if it were me I would get him some counseling through the church I go to. That being said, and I hate to admit it, but there are some churches out there that would not handle this situation right. Either way, get your son to talk to someone because even if he seems ok on the outside you just don't know sometimes. You will be in my prayers.
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Had my next door neighbor and my cousin that I was very close to take their lives a few years back and it is a struggle Dealing with it. Biggest thing for the survivors to remember that the person was sick. Best advice would be to get your son to a counselor. It helped my cousin's 2 brothers find some light at the end of the tunnel. Put you in my prayers.
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Thoughts and prayers go to your son and all of you! It's a horrible experience but God always has a plan for us no matter how weird or unconceivable it is to us as humans.
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I was simmering near the same thoughts here. Thinking about the short life end to Animal (avy) and Wildcard (shot) as well as others who have gaced this forum.
Placing a simple rose on a casket after a burial ceremony is such an easy act, but it tears me apart after turning back realizing the emotions set aside along with the others resting there, placed by friends and family. Water droplets glimmering in the sun on a casket after friends and family bless, carry the same emotion with me as they reflect the life that once was, beneath them.
Keeping up an eminence front through the whole deal never fails to be torn down after multiple handshakes and hugs from anothers. I feel that sharing tears at these moments help heal the immaterial part of a person, we refer to as our soul.
Once again, hold strong though this tough time Kristy. It may test your character, but will draw you closer to your loved ones yet bare no boundary of emotion.
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So sorry you or anyone has to deal with something like that.
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Kristy, I'm very sorry to hear about this...especially for your son's sake (can't feel bad for dad since he was mentally unhealthy and he did make his own selfish choices). The collateral damage from a suicide is far more important to address.
I don't know the circumstances, but your son needs to know that NO MATTER WHAT it was not your son's fault. It's extremely difficult for those close the deceased to not blame themselves or others that may have been close to that person or the issues surrounding the event. It's almost guaranteed that it happens.
It is inevitable that he may very well need to visit with a professional grief counselor. Sometimes it's expensive but in the long run it is VERY worth it. It's very hard for the lay person to advise, counsel or help someone in a situation like this. You can console all you want and you'll do a GREAT job with that, but the grief counselor is the person who needs to be there for him for the "blame" aspect you are talking about.
I hope everything is going to be OK.
I don't know the circumstances, but your son needs to know that NO MATTER WHAT it was not your son's fault. It's extremely difficult for those close the deceased to not blame themselves or others that may have been close to that person or the issues surrounding the event. It's almost guaranteed that it happens.
It is inevitable that he may very well need to visit with a professional grief counselor. Sometimes it's expensive but in the long run it is VERY worth it. It's very hard for the lay person to advise, counsel or help someone in a situation like this. You can console all you want and you'll do a GREAT job with that, but the grief counselor is the person who needs to be there for him for the "blame" aspect you are talking about.
I hope everything is going to be OK.
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god bless you and your family.
god bless you and your family.
I think most folks here nailed it for the short term with the support and such even professional help.
I think in the long term you might steer him to proactive role in suicide prevention, peer support education etc.
I'm thinkin this because I knew this neighbor dude that took his life in the woodshed, come to find out he had a long family history of suicides. Uncles Fathers etc. Your son might wonder if he'll inherit? this "disease".
best wishes for your family.
I think in the long term you might steer him to proactive role in suicide prevention, peer support education etc.
I'm thinkin this because I knew this neighbor dude that took his life in the woodshed, come to find out he had a long family history of suicides. Uncles Fathers etc. Your son might wonder if he'll inherit? this "disease".
best wishes for your family.
I couldn't agree more on both acoounts (lots of hugs and lots of help). Hang in there.
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