I'll ride with or without my hubby... whats the issue?

[Happy Bunny]

I'm just curious as to how many of you guys out there would ride with another guys wife if he wasn't able to ride? Seems like when it comes down to it, something holds you back ... wtf is it? I ride like one of the boys and sometimes better, so its not like I need someone to take care of me. I have my own truck, my own sled, do my own loading.... I just wanna ride... so whats the problem? Can someone please fill me in?

 

[powderpilot]

I think most guys would be afraid of getting into trouble with their wives. My girlfriend was stuck on the side of a hill this weekend and some dumb a$$ guy busts a move above her, almost rolls his sled into her and gets stuck right next to her... Then, didn't even bother to help her get unstuck, and rode back over next to his girl... My thought is he would have gotten slapped if he had stopped to help her.

There's a thread over in the Powder Room about chicks who ride without their men. Find some other ladies in your area that are willing to go.... Problem solved!!!

 

[Happy Bunny]

Interesting take on it.... the boys are afraid of getting in trouble with their wives... huh.

I ride with all boys and I haven't come across any female riders in my area that are as aggressive as me, so that wouldn't work for me...

Problem not solved

 

[dmkhnr]

PowderPilot hit the nail on the head. I have no problem riding with another guy's wife as I know my intentions are pure. However, in marriage boys have boy friends, and girls have girl friends and to have a conversation with my Wife about sledding with another guys Wife isn't going to be something that I want to ever take part in.
I have no problem riding with the ladies, I don't even mind helping load your sleds, or pulling out a stuck. But bring your Hubby.

 

[Rrrrrrandyw]

I thought about this for a few minutes, and I think most of us are hesitant because we don't want to be put in a position of being accused of something going on, either by our wives or your husband. For some reason to us, it just looks inappropriate. I know a few ladies that ride very well, but for the most part, you are the exception. Are you trying to ride with your husbands friends? You might want to branch out and try to ride with people who don't know you as a couple. I think if it was my wife I probably would not like that either, but it might work.

 

[Mike from langley]

No wife here anymore, I'll ride with you any time. Hahaha
Kidding of coarse.
Most decent guys just think doing anything with someone elses wife is a little outa bounds. That's the way it should be I think. I'm pretty new to this but have been riding dirt bikes and quads for ever, I can get around pretty good but it would be cool to see a girl that can kick my *** at something. Going to Graystokes tonight but if you're stuck for riding partners and just want to get out my brother and I go to the Coqu. or Tynne almost every weekend. PM if you like.

 

[Calvin42]

No problem here. In fact, took a trip with my best friends wife as he couldn't go and my wife doesn't ride so no issue. In fact we even shared a hotel room. Fact is, my wife trusted me and her husband trusted her. Had a great sled trip. No hanky panky, just lots of great powder and sledding. Some couples just aren't secure enough in their marriage and put the big Kibosh on something like that.

 

[Hardass]

These guy's are all a bunch of lyers what the real story is they do not want to be out ridden by a girl. Come and ride with us if you want.

 

[CatWoman]

I think it depends on the guys. When my hubby had a sledding mishap that took him out for a bit, I went riding with his/our friends. There was no worry that I was out with the guys without him.

I've even met some folks (now friends) on here (local guys), that I've went riding with while the hubby was at work. That was a good one...meet guys on here and go ride with them.

The worst thing was just that I was getting to ride, and the hubby wasn't. All of these guys all have wives....but all of us are secure in knowing the only intent is to get out and enjoy the snow!

 

[mtnpull]

I ride with an ex girlfriend probably 80-90% of the time I ride. My wife knows her and knows when we are riding together. If my wife rode then we'd all ride together. Of course my wife isn't the jealous type and we (the ex) only get together to ride.

 

[Jaynelson]

Wow some of your guy's wives really have you on the short leash if you couldn't ride sleds with another girl without backlash, particularily as part of a group. What have you done (or vice versa) that they would be that insecure?

I would ride with pretty much anyone if they were a competent and halfway smart rider. Male, female whatever. My girl has borrowed my sled to go riding with other friends and/or family and I never though twice about it. If she wanted to cheat on me, I highly doubt that going sledding with other dudes would be the easiest way to do it. I also doubt that if she were dead set on cheating that preventing her from sledding with other dudes would stop it! Same goes vice versa. If I were looking to pick up chicks, sledding sure as hell would be about the last thing in my mind....not exactly a good ratio.

 

[shadownelson]

I agree with Calvin42. If my husband is out of town, guess what, I'm still riding with "our" friends. I have even traveled out of town with guy friends to ride when my husband couldn't go. Not a problem at all if you have trust and a secure relationship. I could not be married to someone without trust. I am known in our group as the "snow slut" tho lol!

 

[longtrack156]

I would ride with anybody, the problem for me is finding someone to ride with!!!

 

[F-Bomb]

Same here jaynelson...it doesnt matter if it's man, women, or beast. It's a dangerous activity and I realize that who I go with is quite possibly who I am relying on to save my bacon. (and visa versa)

It's always so comical to hear people think of sledding as some sexually arousing activity. Makes me wonder what kind of riding some are doing!

I don't find a chick in a sled outfit and helmet all that arousing out in the bush! My who I ride with process goes as follows: Can you hang (a low PIA factor is a plus irregardless of your sex), are you fun to ride with, are you safe, are you smart, are you reliable, and can you help me if I get in a tree well?....or do you carry awesome food in your cooker. (that gives you ride credits for other deficiencies) he he he

 

[mtnjunkie]

I think it has more to do with the actual relationship between two people than with riding. My husband and I don't have jealously issues or crap like that. There aren't any women around here that ride, but if there were and I couldn't go, I'd be fine if she was there. My husband's a gentleman, if there was a stuck chic somewhere we'd both go help. And if he can't go, it's not an issue for me to go. Of course it's a big bummer if we both can't go on all the rides, but it's about the riding and nothing else.

I had this friend for about 15 years, invited her new husband to ride with us. He was a good rider and had a great time. Said to call as he wanted to go the next weekend. He wouldn't answer the phone and his sled was sitting out for sale about 3 days later. She didn't want him around other women, and she didn't want him doing anything that she couldn't do. Because she can't sled and so really isn't into it other than riding trail once a year. She started telling everyone I had an agenda and was trying to pick up her husband because he went with us ONCE, my husband and brother were both there too. I ended that friendship for good. If that's how a chic is after 15 yrs of friendship, I don't want to be friends.

Most women are jealous and insecure, and most men are scared of them, or scared of the repercussions. I get along with the wives of the guys we ride with, they know I'm there to ride not flirt with their husbands. And I just hope any men I ride with have a good enough relationship it doesn't cause problems. I don't want to cause problems for them, but I'm not skipping any rides because it might upset the wives.

 

[Happy Bunny]

Great responses, thanks! It offers me a little hope that there are people out there not afraid or intimidated to ride with me.

I ride with my hubby all the time, but the problem came when his sled kept breaking down and preventing me from riding.... so I bought him a spare sled last friday... which he promptly broke on Saturday.... preventing me from riding on Sunday. See my problem? lol That's what I get for introducing him to the sport I guess... lmao!

We ride with a number of different guys who are OUR friends, but I haven't been able to pin them down to ride with me when hubby's not there. Hopefully we can keep one of his sleds running all the time so I don't encounter this again. But if it does.... ya might see a post on here looking for a riding partner, lol.

 

[mtnjunkie]

Do their wives know you? Maybe if they knew you and you all had dinner and they got to see you're not after their guys they'd be more comfortable with it. If a guy gets his wife freaking out after every ride, he's just gonna avoid it to save the trouble. Call the women maybe, and say you want to introduce yourself and your husband and all have dinner. Might get them more comfortable with you.

 

[Happy Bunny]

Do their wives know you? Maybe if they knew you and you all had dinner and they got to see you're not after their guys they'd be more comfortable with it. If a guy gets his wife freaking out after every ride, he's just gonna avoid it to save the trouble. Call the women maybe, and say you want to introduce yourself and your husband and all have dinner. Might get them more comfortable with you.

As much as this sounds like a great idea.... I'm not into stroking anyone's ego just to make them feel better about themselves or the situation. I'm married... end of story

 

[PowderCrew]

Do you guys have a "rally point" in your area? Here, at the top of the canyon there is a big play lake that is just a natural spot for everyone to first go... I go up alone all the time and just find a group to hook up with. May know them.... may not. If so... just find a group and ask if you can join them for safety? Maybe you can meet groups from out of area or you guys dont know and down the road it would create riding friends for both you and hubby, but there probably wouldnt be any awkwardness because they would already know you? I know in this area... you would have very little issue finding people to ride with. Its ALL ABOUT THE RIDE HERE!

 

[powderpilot]

So sorry to hear that you don't have any hardcore sled chicks near you. Seems to be the problem everywhere.... A lot of us girls travel big miles to get together to ride, but it's worth it

When I started riding I would park at the staging area with a bag full of food and ask people if I could tag along, but I was single. It might be easier for guys to take you if they don't know your hubby, that way they won't feel guilty hanging with you, as long as you're both comfortable with that...

My regular group of riding buds won't invite me if they know my BF can't go, but they won't leave me behind if I just show up at the parking lot either. I think my man would feel better knowing I'm in good hands with friends he trusts, than with a bunch of yahoos.