What happens when you run a thicker oil? Worth a test. If you're towing frequently, the 5w40 is likely not the best choice. I run 0w40 in the winter in my diesel, and it uses a bit but nothing like that, even in twice the mileage.
Why have you changed synthetic oil 3 times in 10k? Get your oil analyzed by someone like Blackstone Labs. I push 8k miles on a synthetic change, towing included and they suggest trying for 8500 next time.
I don't know when I'll be home and it's easier for me to change oil at my parents house than at the farm house I live at in Vernal
I try to change it ever 3,000 miles even if I'm using synthetic.
I'm gonna switch back to dino oil and see what happens.