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Attention Parents - keep things in perspective...

an email I got, but it is a good reminder of whats important in life...


In the faint light of the attic, an old man, tall and stooped, bent his great frame and made his way to a stack of boxes that sat near one of the little half-windows. Brushing aside a wisp of cobwebs, he tilted the top box toward the light and began to carefully lift out one old photograph album after another. Eyes once bright but now dim searched longingly for the source that had drawn him here.
It began with the fond recollection of the love of his life, long gone, and somewhere in these albums was a photo of her he hoped to rediscover. Silent as a mouse, he patiently opened the long buried treasures and soon was lost in a sea of memories. Although his world had not stopped spinning when his wife left it, the past was more alive in his heart than his present aloneness.

Setting aside one of the dusty albums, he pulled from the box what appeared to be a journal from his grown son’s childhood. He could not recall ever having seen it before, or that his son had ever kept a journal. Why did Elizabeth always save the children’s old junk? he wondered, shaking his white head.

Opening the yellowed pages, he glanced over a short reading, and his lips curved in an unconscious smile. Even his eyes brightened as he read the words that spoke clear and sweet to his soul. It was the voice of the little boy who had grown up far too fast in this very house, and whose voice had grown fainter and fainter over the years. In the utter silence of the attic, the words of a guileless six-year-old worked their magic and carried the old man back to a time almost totally forgotten.

Entry after entry stirred a sentimental hunger in his heart like the longing a gardener feels in the winter for the fragrance of spring flowers. But it was accompanied by the painful memory that his son’s simple recollections of those days were far different from his own. But how different?

Reminded that he had kept a daily journal of his business activities over the years, he closed his son’s journal and turned to leave, having forgotten the cherished photo that originally triggered his search. Hunched over to keep from bumping his head on the rafters, the old man stepped to the wooden stairway and made his descent, then headed down a carpeted stairway that led to the den.

Opening a glass cabinet door, he reached in and pulled out an old business journal. Turning, he sat down at his desk and placed the two journals beside each other. His was leather-bound and engraved neatly with his name in gold, while his son’s was tattered and the name “Jimmy” had been nearly scuffed from its surface. He ran a long skinny finger over the letters, as though he could restore what had been worn away with time and use.

As he opened his journal, the old man’s eyes fell upon an inscription that stood out because it was so brief in comparison to other days. In his own neat handwriting were these words:

Wasted the whole day fishing with Jimmy. Didn’t catch a thing.

With a deep sigh and a shaking hand, he took Jimmy’s journal and found the boy’s entry for the same day, June 4. Large scrawling letters, pressed deeply into the paper, read:

Went fishing with my dad. Best day of my life.
 
Very true! My daughter just graduated from HS, seems like such a short time from this:

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to this:

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And from this:

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to this:

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Just took my 10 year old to work with me last Friday.. He sat patciently all day around my office and took him to break a couple times for a sugar rush. At 6 pm on our drive home I appologized to him for it being such a boring day.. His answer to me "Had a great day dad and I never knew there was so much cool stuff there" I guess like its posted its all perspective. We need to cherish all the times.
 
:) My wife got a promo @ work & is downstate for training for 2 weeks, Now I get to play mister mom. After dinner we went for ice cream & then to the beach.......... These truely are the "Good old days" I will remember later in life:)
 
You know when you read a story like that you always think thats nice but its fiction, nothing like that will ever come to fruition. Trust me, one phone call and your world collapses. What once seems so damn important, now is petty and insignificant. I am fortunate enough to have shared many,many hours with my daughter on the course and I am thankful that now I do not have any regrets about spending time with her. We think as grownups that we are sacrificing our own precious time for our children, when in fact we are the lucky ones that they want to be with. No one knows the future. Do not have to many harsh words because you never know when the words you speak to your children will be your last.
 
You know when you read a story like that you always think thats nice but its fiction, nothing like that will ever come to fruition. Trust me, one phone call and your world collapses. What once seems so damn important, now is petty and insignificant. I am fortunate enough to have shared many,many hours with my daughter on the course and I am thankful that now I do not have any regrets about spending time with her. We think as grownups that we are sacrificing our own precious time for our children, when in fact we are the lucky ones that they want to be with. No one knows the future. Do not have to many harsh words because you never know when the words you speak to your children will be your last.

I have no idea how I would ever deal with that loss, Very choked up here @ the moment:brokenheart:

I am very sorry for your loss & God Bless.
 
You know when you read a story like that you always think thats nice but its fiction, nothing like that will ever come to fruition. Trust me, one phone call and your world collapses. What once seems so damn important, now is petty and insignificant. I am fortunate enough to have shared many,many hours with my daughter on the course and I am thankful that now I do not have any regrets about spending time with her. We think as grownups that we are sacrificing our own precious time for our children, when in fact we are the lucky ones that they want to be with. No one knows the future. Do not have to many harsh words because you never know when the words you speak to your children will be your last.


Wow. That was unexpected and hit home so hard. I don't think it's ever gotten any easier to deal with through the years either. You really are so lucky for all the hours you got to spend with her but no parent should ever have to bury their child. It's the biggest devastation you can ever possibly experience. :brokenheart::brokenheart:
 
You know when you read a story like that you always think thats nice but its fiction, nothing like that will ever come to fruition. Trust me, one phone call and your world collapses. What once seems so damn important, now is petty and insignificant. I am fortunate enough to have shared many,many hours with my daughter on the course and I am thankful that now I do not have any regrets about spending time with her. We think as grownups that we are sacrificing our own precious time for our children, when in fact we are the lucky ones that they want to be with. No one knows the future. Do not have to many harsh words because you never know when the words you speak to your children will be your last.

Oregun! That was only few weeks ago and less than week before her birthday!

I'm SO sorry.

That has to be SO raw right now!
 
Great thread with even better posts!:)

My 2 year old daughter helped put things in perspective for my wife and I over the weekend.
Last week my wife bought my daughter a princess outfit... Complete with the crown and a one dollar "magic wand".
She wears it pretty much 24/7, and getting her to wear diferent clothes when we go out is near impossible at times.
Over the weekend I noticed her one dollar "magic wand" was broken.
Without giving it a second thought, I took it in the garage, trimmed off the broken plastic, drilled a hole, and re-atatched the top to the wand with a screw.
Later that day I got a call from my wife telling me how excited our daughter was because "daddy fixed her wand"... It made my wifes day, and mine also, especially seing how excited she was when I got home, and for her thanking me.
But to her, im sure it was "the best day ever".
 
I dont want to be here @ work right now, What I really want is to go home hold my little girl.

Problem is she either needs to not be feeling well or it has to be just before "Good Night Time" as she calls it...... She's busy little thing.
 
You know when you read a story like that you always think thats nice but its fiction, nothing like that will ever come to fruition. Trust me, one phone call and your world collapses. What once seems so damn important, now is petty and insignificant. I am fortunate enough to have shared many,many hours with my daughter on the course and I am thankful that now I do not have any regrets about spending time with her. We think as grownups that we are sacrificing our own precious time for our children, when in fact we are the lucky ones that they want to be with. No one knows the future. Do not have to many harsh words because you never know when the words you speak to your children will be your last.

I know the pain that you feel. It has been almost 5 years now since we buried my daughter. One of the lessons that I learned from her is not to waste any time with them. I spend as much time with my boys as I can. I think that losing my daughter has made me a better father for the boys.
 
Tim, from what i've heard and the pics i've seen both you and mark were amazing sons. And I'm sure your dad cherished every moment
 
shipping out tomorrow (Damn navy). date with the wife is off, date with the whole family is on. hope I will get to type to you guys in the future. It has been really fun reading and learning from all of you. enjoy your lives and your freedoms. hope to be back soon!!
 
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