The Best Way to get over her???
- Thread starter Snowmobile Kid
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i feel ya but i was the one who broke it off. broke up with my highschool sweetheart of over 3 years about a month ago. it was one of the hardest things i have ever had to do but i felt it was the best for me and her on the long run. just didnt see myself with her 5 years down the road. the hardest thing was that when i droped the bomb on here she looked me in the eyes and told me "I knew i was going to marry you but you have broken my heart into a million pieces". it killed me knowing that i had stomped on her heart and dreams. i have experience on both sides and believe me....STAY BUSY and spend money on toys lol. get out and have fun. no sense in being tied down just yet. dont talk to her or see her until you are certain you can stand it....it just makes it that much worse if you dont.....good luck. things will be better....may not seem like it now but just remember. everything happens for a reason....that one perfect girl will probably just stroll into your life when you least expect it.
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Snowmobile Kid
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I drive Trucks, Haul hay in Wa State.
But I bought all my toys when I still lived at home and didnt have any bills.
Sorry to hear of this. I know it can be a heartbreaking ordeal. 
One thing I'd suggest is to NOT see her. It's going to break your heart all the more, and help her (as has been stated). Also, if there is any chance of being back together, it most likely won't happen with you just being her *friend* and helping her to move on. Sometimes absence does make the heart grow fonder. If it doesn't, it still benefits you not seeing her and reliving the agony of the break-up....so either way, it is beneficial to you. It WILL make her wonder what you are doing, how you are doing, etc.
As tough as it is, try not to be too self-destructive. Take good care of yourself, and do get out and do things you like to do (keeping busy). Maybe hit the gym and work off/out some of the pain.
I wish you the best!
Sandy
One thing I'd suggest is to NOT see her. It's going to break your heart all the more, and help her (as has been stated). Also, if there is any chance of being back together, it most likely won't happen with you just being her *friend* and helping her to move on. Sometimes absence does make the heart grow fonder. If it doesn't, it still benefits you not seeing her and reliving the agony of the break-up....so either way, it is beneficial to you. It WILL make her wonder what you are doing, how you are doing, etc.
As tough as it is, try not to be too self-destructive. Take good care of yourself, and do get out and do things you like to do (keeping busy). Maybe hit the gym and work off/out some of the pain.
I wish you the best!
Sandy
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T-Bone
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Make the split quick and clean. It's gonna hurt for a while, but in the end you will thank yourself for not going through the agony of trying to be her "friend". Once there's been a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, going back to a normal friendship just doesn't work. If she even senses that you still have some feelings towards her, she will more than likely drag you through the mud just to see how long she can do it.
Another good idea is to really bear down on your work. Staying busy and making strides in your career will help you feel better about yourself. Sitting in the bar (or just sitting around in general), thinking of how much you miss her and wishing you two were still together will just drive you nuts.
My advice may seem cold and callous, but it's the way it's worked for me.
Another good idea is to really bear down on your work. Staying busy and making strides in your career will help you feel better about yourself. Sitting in the bar (or just sitting around in general), thinking of how much you miss her and wishing you two were still together will just drive you nuts.
My advice may seem cold and callous, but it's the way it's worked for me.
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mod03rmk800
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First real love? If so, some of the gut wrenching feelings will probably never fully go away. Break-ups always have an underlining cause. If you really wish a long term relationship with her, you should search for the cause and the cause of the cause. I was the typical 'jock' during my youth and continue to be a 'guys-guy' some still today(40yrs old now). That aspect of life had to be toned down in a long term relationship setting and steered more to the Woman and her emotions, which is something that I wanted/felt to do and not forced. With a functional relationship, there has to be equality, selfishless, likeminded life goals and still be the MAN. With that said, Woman are a tough nut to crack with there emotions and whatnots that seem to change hourly. They are complex to say the least.
Work on yourself first, which includes being extremely careful with the partying as this could lead to serious bad life decisions and I would keep the communications open between the two of you to explore whether the relationship will be able to continue in a healthy way or not. I would not recommend into diving into the sheets with another until a little reflection on what the relationship problems were. It may be as simple as she is merely seeing where your heart and head truly are to the other spectrum of her wanting someone else.
Good luck, be careful with the booze and extras,learn from the soft and fuzzy
feelings you are experiencing(but don't lose the MAN in you),hold your chin high and push forward with life taking whatever has happened-is happening-gonna happen as life knowledge and continue with the journey.
Work on yourself first, which includes being extremely careful with the partying as this could lead to serious bad life decisions and I would keep the communications open between the two of you to explore whether the relationship will be able to continue in a healthy way or not. I would not recommend into diving into the sheets with another until a little reflection on what the relationship problems were. It may be as simple as she is merely seeing where your heart and head truly are to the other spectrum of her wanting someone else.
Good luck, be careful with the booze and extras,learn from the soft and fuzzy
feelings you are experiencing(but don't lose the MAN in you),hold your chin high and push forward with life taking whatever has happened-is happening-gonna happen as life knowledge and continue with the journey.
this thread would make the perfect country song lol.
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snowmobiler
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got any more pics?
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intmid8or!
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that only lasts so long before you run out of socks, and have been on every site on the net....
That's money... screw the opposite sex... damn mind terrorists anyways...
What's wrong with the occasional one night stand? Sure it's frowned upon, but you get what you need no strings attached, no hurt feelings, and it sure doesn't hurt the bank... just choose your partner(s) wisely.
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ak ryda
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Time cures all bro, just refocus on yourself. Being self destructive is fine for a temporary coping mechanism but dont let them control you (been there, done / doing that after end of 11+ year marriage a little over 6 months ago). There are alot more girls out there, you will get with another one and be happier, happens every time.
AND FOR THE LOVE OF GOD QUIT SEEING HER AND BEING HER FRIEND. As much as it hurts and as much as you still want her, she is the one who dumped YOU. Dont disrespect yourself by enabling her. You are young and got your $hit together, if its meant to be then she will come CRAWLING back. If not, then you are better off.
And while we are here, dont do anything really stupid since you are low and more susceptible to poor decision making. Really stupid errors include but are not limited to..... DUI, knocking up random girl, or fall for first rebound girl you get with. Seen them all done by dudes in your exact position.
AND FOR THE LOVE OF GOD QUIT SEEING HER AND BEING HER FRIEND. As much as it hurts and as much as you still want her, she is the one who dumped YOU. Dont disrespect yourself by enabling her. You are young and got your $hit together, if its meant to be then she will come CRAWLING back. If not, then you are better off.
And while we are here, dont do anything really stupid since you are low and more susceptible to poor decision making. Really stupid errors include but are not limited to..... DUI, knocking up random girl, or fall for first rebound girl you get with. Seen them all done by dudes in your exact position.
Pay close attention to the last part, especially the dui/first rebound...
I can tell you from experience it's bad news bears.
DUI cost me thousands upon thousands of dollars, cost me a promotion in the military. The insurance going up alone cost me the new pickup that I wanted... full coverage for my truck now is $350 a month, for 2 more years.
I'm extremely thankful that I was pulled over, people say I learned the hard way. No, learning the hard way is killing an innocent person, due to your stupidity
The first rebound for me ended up in me being extremely closed off to the girl, and in the end hurt her emotionally.
I have no sympathy for someone that knocks a girl up... if you can't play safe, don't play.
Just as everyone else has stated, cut off all ties to her, occupy your time with family, friends, hobbies...
Something comes to mind that rhymes with 'truck' and starts with 'grudge'. 
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sledchick
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Sorry I don't do one night stands, I have self-respect for myself. But if it your gig, more power to ya!
I would say use that truck! If it doesnt work right away back up and try again ! Seriously stay away form her . It will just keep the pain coming back and she will know that she can manipulate you if you dont. If your not good enough to be the man now dont be the one she comes to when things get hard for her. My Ex wife tried that crap a few months ago and as hard as it was to tell her to get Phocked it was the best thing I ever did. Keep your head up better days are coming !
