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Domestic Violence - Any Excperience?
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Knock his teeth out while he is sleeping, he'll get the picture
NOT a good plan, how soon you forget that we lost one of our SW brothers due to alcohol, domestic violence and guns. Get the cops and courts involved and get his azzz thrown out immediately. no counseling, no "I'm sorry", no "I'll change", get his butt out immediately and change the locks and everything else that you can.
A man that abuses a woman is not my brother. He is a piece of chit. Drunk or not. There is a very slim chance that she is going to win a self defense hand to hand fight with a man if this happens again. So ya, kick him out, get your TRO... but it wouldn't hurt to have a backup plan. I'm in a pissy mood this mornin SS, too much Obama on my mind. 
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A man that abuses a woman is not my brother. He is a piece of chit. Drunk or not. There is a very slim chance that she is going to win a self defense hand to hand fight with a man if this happens again. So ya, kick him out, get your TRO... but it wouldn't hurt to have a backup plan. I'm in a pissy mood this mornin ICR, too much Obama on my mind.
Do a little search on "Wildcard", he was not the drunk nor the abuser, he just was that one that paid with his life.
I remember the deal with Wildcard... Similar situation, but not the same right? Was it not the drunk abuser that took his life?
Yep and it's always the innocent person that becomes the victim, what happens when Wired goes for her gun and it's either not there because the d'bag has it or he takes it from her? Now he's pissed, drunk AND armed, hmmmm NOT a good comination for her is it?
No, that is not a good combination for her. I agree with you on that. I don't agree that the innocent person ALWAYS becomes the victim. How about when god forbid dbag breaks down the door next time he's drunk and pissed and Wired is sleeping and he comes in and she has absolutely no chance to defend herself.... Sure would be nice to have that gun handy then... Don't get me wrong tho: If you are going to play that card, you must be 100% ready to pull that trigger until you don't need to pull it anymore.
Do not put yourself in a situation where you have only one option.
Example. Some say a gun. Well, your situation if confronted is, A. Shoot him, B. Give him the gun and wish for the best.
Not a good scenario. Leave yourself lots of options and exit routes.
Box up ALL his stuff and send it to him, with a invoice of what is there. So he cant use the excuse to be comming over looking for something. Go for the temp restraining order. Let it be known that if he steps foot on your property, he will be tossed in jail. No sob stories.
Let your close friends/family know of the situation, they will call and check in on you.
Maybe pick up some mace or pepper spray.
Again, leave yourself more then one exit strat. So you dont end up cornered by him or doing something stupid like shooting him.
Example. Some say a gun. Well, your situation if confronted is, A. Shoot him, B. Give him the gun and wish for the best.
Not a good scenario. Leave yourself lots of options and exit routes.
Box up ALL his stuff and send it to him, with a invoice of what is there. So he cant use the excuse to be comming over looking for something. Go for the temp restraining order. Let it be known that if he steps foot on your property, he will be tossed in jail. No sob stories.
Let your close friends/family know of the situation, they will call and check in on you.
Maybe pick up some mace or pepper spray.
Again, leave yourself more then one exit strat. So you dont end up cornered by him or doing something stupid like shooting him.
Excellent advice Skogen
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if he was your husband, I could see you kicking him out until he completey quits drinking ( attends meetings and demonstrates at least 6 months of sobriety), takes councilling, and slowly begins courting you. If he balks at any of these, then file for divorce and get a TRO.
Since he is just a roamate, there is nothing to talk about. He is gone. You are not his keeper, just a potential victim. If he doesn't face the logical consequences of his actions, he will never change.
Since he is just a roamate, there is nothing to talk about. He is gone. You are not his keeper, just a potential victim. If he doesn't face the logical consequences of his actions, he will never change.
Do not give him a second chance. I've had family and friends in abusive relationships, they thought the guy could change. Guess what......it happened again!!!
Booze is a looking glass to who people really are....
Booze is a looking glass to who people really are....
thats cold man.....
In spite of popular belief, people do not change-----
They may bury it for awhile but it will always be there-----
Do what you need to to stay free & happy---
JMHO, Married 42 years, Rat
They may bury it for awhile but it will always be there-----
Do what you need to to stay free & happy---
JMHO, Married 42 years, Rat
Wired:
In the Minneapolis area, there was a guy that got dumped by his girlfirend. This guy kept calling her, stalking her. She got a new boyfriend. The guy broke into the house and killed the both of them. (She had a restraining order, what good did that do her?)
Is your guy the jealous type? (sounds to me like he could very well be that type) If he is, then you best both get a restraining order, AND get yourself a gun for self defense. My understanding is that you guys up in Canada cannot own a handgun. Well then get yourself a hunting rifle and keep it within easy reach.
This guy has issues. you say that he is "ok" when he is sober. I disagree. He just happens to be able to control himself better when he is sober, but the feelings of him wanting to kill you are always there, sober or not. He has never demonstrated those "threatening to kill you" statements while he is sober, but they will eventually come out into the open.
My advice would be to get all the protection you can.
When your out away from home:
Get yourself a monster can of pepper spray and keep it in your handbag. Keep your cell phone near.
When you are at home:
1. Get yourself a dog. Does not have to be a big dog, but dogs give you an early warning if someone is approaching your home.
2. Get yourself a rifle and know how to use it.
Cut off contact with this guy completely. Get him out of your house immediately. I would change your phone number, and get a new email address. The less contact the better.
Wired, we do not need another stastic to read about. Don't laugh it off, and get into the "oh it won't happen to me" type of mindset.
In the Minneapolis area, there was a guy that got dumped by his girlfirend. This guy kept calling her, stalking her. She got a new boyfriend. The guy broke into the house and killed the both of them. (She had a restraining order, what good did that do her?)
Is your guy the jealous type? (sounds to me like he could very well be that type) If he is, then you best both get a restraining order, AND get yourself a gun for self defense. My understanding is that you guys up in Canada cannot own a handgun. Well then get yourself a hunting rifle and keep it within easy reach.
This guy has issues. you say that he is "ok" when he is sober. I disagree. He just happens to be able to control himself better when he is sober, but the feelings of him wanting to kill you are always there, sober or not. He has never demonstrated those "threatening to kill you" statements while he is sober, but they will eventually come out into the open.
My advice would be to get all the protection you can.
When your out away from home:
Get yourself a monster can of pepper spray and keep it in your handbag. Keep your cell phone near.
When you are at home:
1. Get yourself a dog. Does not have to be a big dog, but dogs give you an early warning if someone is approaching your home.
2. Get yourself a rifle and know how to use it.
Cut off contact with this guy completely. Get him out of your house immediately. I would change your phone number, and get a new email address. The less contact the better.
Wired, we do not need another stastic to read about. Don't laugh it off, and get into the "oh it won't happen to me" type of mindset.
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kick his *** and show him who is boss
I had a horrible experience this past summer....so I know where you are coming from.
But please, please do what others have told you here. TRO and get a gun, if you don't already. Any gun. You can also ask the police to do more patrols in your area.
But please, please do what others have told you here. TRO and get a gun, if you don't already. Any gun. You can also ask the police to do more patrols in your area.
Just sit him down and cook him a nice dinner and poison his ***. Hell I think that is what my wife is trying to do.
Seriously get a dog! There are people out there and probably on snowest that train guard dogs and they would die for you, and a taser.
I have a sister that lives alone and I told her to get rid of her gun unless she was going to actually use the dam thing. Otherwise someone will just take it from you and shoot you with it.
Seriously get a dog! There are people out there and probably on snowest that train guard dogs and they would die for you, and a taser.
I have a sister that lives alone and I told her to get rid of her gun unless she was going to actually use the dam thing. Otherwise someone will just take it from you and shoot you with it.
