The stock o-rings are not the problem. I have been running arctic cat turbos for 4 years with much more boost on stock o-rings. You are having a detonation problem which will eat o-rings. What does your a/f gauge say under full throttle? It could be that you are just a little lean, not enough to sieze but enough to detonate.
Thats cool to know. I would have never suspected something like that. So if everything is mechanically flat and surfaced well, look at fuel...cool data
Thanks!