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Oregongirl
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Read! There are lots of great books about being a single parent (dad).
The kids are smarter than most parents give them credit for.
Don't lie to them.
Don't make promises you can't keep.
Use age appropriate words to explain things to them.
NEVER bad mouth the other parent. They will figure it out for themselves.
Don't force the parenting situation with the other parent...meaning, if you have the kids and mom is suppose to call, don't call her if she doesn't call them. The relationship is her's to manage/maintain. This is the hard part...the disappoint you might see your children endure. But, just be there for them!! Tell them you understand they are sad or hurting or whatever...but DON'T bad mouth mom. They need to learn what to expect (or not expect) from both parents. They can't do that if one parent is always bad-mouthing or covering for the behavior of the other one.
Remind them often about how proud you are to be their daddy, to have them in your life, and how much you love them. Never let them forget it.
...and finally....actions speak louder than words (especially for children).
I'm so sorry about your situation!
The kids are smarter than most parents give them credit for.
Don't lie to them.
Don't make promises you can't keep.
Use age appropriate words to explain things to them.
NEVER bad mouth the other parent. They will figure it out for themselves.
Don't force the parenting situation with the other parent...meaning, if you have the kids and mom is suppose to call, don't call her if she doesn't call them. The relationship is her's to manage/maintain. This is the hard part...the disappoint you might see your children endure. But, just be there for them!! Tell them you understand they are sad or hurting or whatever...but DON'T bad mouth mom. They need to learn what to expect (or not expect) from both parents. They can't do that if one parent is always bad-mouthing or covering for the behavior of the other one.
Remind them often about how proud you are to be their daddy, to have them in your life, and how much you love them. Never let them forget it.
...and finally....actions speak louder than words (especially for children).
I'm so sorry about your situation!
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