Again, need guys' input, specially dads.

[Wired1]

I have a good friend I'm very close to. Sadly for me he likes fat dumb chick. I spend a lot of time with him and his young boys (11 and 13). 2 we3eks ago his youngest told a friend he wanted us to be a family. Tonight, his oldest asked me if he could live with me, so he'd have his own room and be closer to school. Obviously I told him no and explained how hurt his dad would be. Their dad loves them so much and has done a wonderful job as a single dad.

But I;m not sure how to handle this. His boys enjoy being around me, and wan to help clean as a way of saying thank you for dinner, etc.

I guess my question is, do I say anything to their dad?

Thanks.

 

[AKSNOWRIDER]

I have a good friend I'm very close to. Sadly for me he likes fat dumb chick. I spend a lot of time with him and his young boys (11 and 13). 2 we3eks ago his youngest told a friend he wanted us to be a family. Tonight, his oldest asked me if he could live with me, so he'd have his own room and be closer to school. Obviously I told him no and explained how hurt his dad would be. Their dad loves them so much and has done a wonderful job as a single dad.

But I;m not sure how to handle this. His boys enjoy being around me, and wan to help clean as a way of saying thank you for dinner, etc.

I guess my question is, do I say anything to their dad?

Thanks.

man wired, thats a tough one...I too am a single parent..and as good of a dad as your friend is...he isnt...when your a single parent..kids are job 1..they come before everything else..period..no time for an old lady with young kids..that comes later..no time for bars either....I think saying something will maybe cost you a friendship..but I think it might help his kids and him come to have a better relationship..tough call... if you do it I would sit them all down, friend, girlfriend and the boys..and lay it out there..good luck....

 

[woodzy]

You gotta talk to him Wired. If you want to be with him and his kids, then let him know. Life is too short to regret something, or not doing something in this case. Don't do it in front of the kids tho, he doesn't need the extra pressure coming from them.

 

[m8magicandmystery]

i raised my two boys myself from 6 and 8...it was a tough go...but man what great memories...but i tell ya...when they visited their ma every month for a couple days she was some hero...didn;t need the rules...but the boys got older and seen my ways and recognize what was right ..its just patience...they eventually see the light...i guess one thing to consider is letting the dad know...maybee have the kid with ya for a bit...it may open the kids eyes...and it sure is alot better having you on that side of the fence then someone who hasn;t the interest of the father at hand...the kids will seem to turn at some point against their dad...not intentionally...just hormones and age etc...dad will have to thicken his skin and not take it personel and know time is his friend..